female masturbation – Sexual Frustration and the Common Man – Does it Hurt Or Help Society As a Whole?

Sexual frustration is a topic discussed in one form or another everywhere from street corners to high school gym classes, local bars to office cubicles and it’s not always in the form of sex talk. Sometimes it takes on the actions of howling men towards a beautiful women, to heated arguments and brawls between one or more frustrated men. Do our sexual desires drive society as a whole? Do men seek out world wide fame or enormous amounts of money just to in essence, get laid, or procreate? Can anyone out there actually deduce the connection logically and pinpoint exactly the correlation between procreation, the sex drive and the evolution of our modern society? I’m not going to analyze large statistics or online surveys trying to figure out the connection. I’m going to look from a different perspective. My own unique experience from when I myself was down the road of despair in sexual matters.

I was a frustrated young man at one point. My drives, aspirations, goals, and everyday living revolved around “getting into a woman’s pants”. I remember one day having tons of work to do but waking up like many men do, with a hard on. I was feeling sexual but had no means at the time to share those feelings with another person. So what does a guy do in that situation? Yes. You guessed it, masturbate. You look for media types of sexual arousal and so to speak, go to town. Except that particular day I was working at home and the feelings in my pants stopped me from getting any real work done. I decided to search for a little pornographic stimuli, delayed as long as I could, until finally I couldn’t hold out any longer. If I didn’t have an orgasm soon I would not get anything done that day. So I Did. Then a giant light bulb went off in my head just after the “baby batter release” as it was so eloquently called in the film, “Something about Mary”.

I remember clearly thinking. Was that all? All day I spent frustrated and my mind was so cluttered with wanting sex that I got nothing done. All for a three minute release which was very disappointing because there was no one there to share it with me. I also remember thinking that if any one man, to a million men a day, had those same feelings which is very likely, then our society at some level has functioned that way. Sexual arousal and then a release driving men to either curl up inside their own frustrated minds and removing themselves from those around them, to trying to take over the world with their exasperated attempts to gain wealth and/or fame in hopes of unlimited sex and power.

So what come first? Is it the drive to procreate that manages our sexual habits, or is it our sexual arousal or awareness that keeps our eye on the prize. The prize of a rewarding family and a guarantee to have our genes be passed on. A gene can not arbitrarily function on its own. It uses our bodies to convey itself and it does so in the best known manner. Stronger and smarter creatures move on, others die away unable to create another version of itself. A man usually experiences an orgasm so fleetingly; unlike a woman who can experience the same orgasm for longer periods of time. And she can experience it again and again until she tires. Similiar to how a woman is generally built to nurture and how she must bear the children. Its a long term investment. With men it’s different. it seems our initial bodily response would be to build our self back up, produce more sperm, and again seek out the next available willing partner.

I am not a firm believer that any one sex drives our species. I feel without one, the other will not survive. It’s a mutual agreement where both is needed and by doing so guarantees similar yet better copies. Let’s assume our society had been built by man and his need to release himself from the sexual frustration our genes have built inside us. Do we then become a society of quick schemes, easy way outs, rather than the long term investment a woman’s run society would possess. The female more concerned about the future and how to make sure her offspring has a lasting survival and in turn, keep the process moving along. But since I have already stated I believe our society works on both levels we have the instant gratification on one end, and the long term investment on the other. Metaphorically speaking men are the advertisement or quick lure, and women hold the content or the actual material listed in the table of contents of life. After all a great written book means nothing if there is only one person reading it, so advertising is usually good practice.

The sexual frustration of the common man serves a person then. It’s one piece of the greater puzzle in which we all share our won little spot on the map. One in which we all contribute to in our own unique manner but are built from the same core materials. If the same feelings of “I need to release my sperm” drives the common man to achieve more than his fellow man, even if it’s on his own terms such as an inward journey it does have a purpose. How that same man chooses to deal with his issues of frustration will in the end determine what type of man he will be and how his offspring or those around him will be affected. For example, a nerdy boy in school whose sexual frustration might propel him into the realm of great wealth may not ever offer as much towards our societies real growth as the curious inward driven man wishing to better himself. Using the sheer energy associated with not having a partner to better himself selfishly and in turn actually offering more to the growth of society.

The genes in our bodies wishing to survive can’t directly control how we use this energy. It only controls how much energy or the actual root of those wants or needs. Yet those same genes gives us a great tool for deciding how we use that energy, or anger, that tool is our brains. And when our brains are used in a stable productive manner it gives us the ability to choose our actions. If you are a slightly frustrated man with the physical and mental ability to have great sex with a partner but are left with feelings of, “that its?” because you have no one to share your experience with, how you act on those urges can in fact affect who you become. When we share the moment of orgasm with a lover who desires the same, with a life long partner or one night, I can tell you that those same feelings are much different that what I felt after masturbating by myself. A certain connection was made so I was able to experience a longer lasting emotionally stability or immediate content feelings of lying next to someone you care deeply for. After that a new drive would envelope my body, such as protection and nurturing.

I do not always enjoy answering a question with a question but there is also the theory that a great question will often lead to many more great questions. I’ve already taken on the belief in this article that sexual frustration can drive our society for better or for worse, but in which manner does the frustrated man’s urges drive us? Is it the drive to procreate? Is it the drive to release our sperm and gain that instant gratification? Or is that same drive actually man’s search for that longer lasting “female orgasm” which is achieved when you are with a partner and don’t just roll over and go to sleep? The feelings associated with the joking, kissing, immersing yourself in after-play and relishing every drop of pleasure from it?

Peter l. White is an expert in the field of attraction and social dynamics. A nice guy that has learned how to finish first. He has turned himself into a sexy, charming, magnetic, masculine man, yet managed to keep many of the nice guy qualities that make him an overall good person. Visit his new home page Dialteg tm for his blogs and links on turning nice guys that finish last, into nice guys that finish first. You can also visit his Attraction101 and participate or learn from some of his free polls, surveys, or personality tests designed to understand more deeply the attraction felt between women and men.

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